Don't hold it in

Life is a complicated game.  It's full of decisions that have to be made on a daily basis, some more difficult than others.  You interact with people, and carry on conversations.  Most of the time we just hear what the person is telling us and take it at that.  It's hard to tell if the person really means what they are saying or if they are just blowing smoke up your ass.  We can't read there mind, so truly knowing what they mean can be difficult.  If you want to really understand what the person is saying, or what they think of you, you'll need to observe them.  You can tell a lot about a person by their actions, and maybe they say one thing to your face but their actions mean the opposite.     
So what do you do when somebody does something that hurts you with either their words or their actions?  Do you hold it in, or do you say something?  I feel most people hold it in.  Then after bottling up all the small things, you explode over something else, and everything comes out at once.  It can get quite messy, and feelings can be hurt.  But what if you speak up when the actions happen?  Will that change the end result?  How many times can you confront somebody about there actions towards you?  At some point you have to draw the line, but life would probably be easier if you confronted people up front, at the time of the action.  This way it doesn't build inside of you, and you can discuss it while the topic is fresh in both minds.
What if you confront the person though, and they don't want to deal with it?  How can you build a better working relationship with that person if you don't ever resolve the differences between you?  You can't.  In these situations you have 2 choices; talk out your differences, or never speak to the person again.  Walking away is always easier than working things out.  And with all the other difficult decisions we have to make in life, we like to travel the path of least resistance, which means we walk away. 
Talking about your feelings is hard, especially in the world we live in now.  Working out disagreements with someone can be even harder, because you have to open yourself up to that person.  But the bottom line is you have to take life by the horns and confront your feelings.  Will you hurt other peoples feelings along the way?  I'm sure you will, but at least you were honest with them.  It's always better to be upfront and honest with a person, so don't hold it in, let them know how their actions/words made you feel.

Thanks for reading,
Dustin Dominiak